Note 5: If It Keeps Returning

Dec 26

If a decision keeps coming back, it’s not because you haven’t solved it yet.

It’s because it matters.

Unimportant things fade. They resolve themselves or lose urgency. Decisions that resurface do so because something real is at stake.

People often interpret recurrence as confusion. It’s not. It’s signal.

The mind keeps bringing a decision forward when it knows it hasn’t been handled honestly. Not intellectually. Honestly.

You can suppress it for a while. Stay busy. Focus elsewhere. Tell yourself you’ll get to it later.

But it doesn’t disappear.

It waits.

When a decision keeps returning, the question usually isn’t “What should I choose?”

It’s “What am I refusing to acknowledge about this?”

Until that’s named, no amount of thinking will close it.

And once it’s named, most decisions collapse quickly.

Not because they’re easy.

Because they were never actually about the options.

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Kami Gray

I run a private decision-making practice called The Decision Room. I work with people at the point where thinking, research, and advice have stopped helping. My work isn’t coaching or strategy. It’s discernment…collapsing noise, identifying what actually matters, and making a clear recommendation when the stakes feel real. I’m particularly interested in how AI, information overload, and endless optionality have made decision-making harder, not easier.

https://www.thedecisionroom.co/

Note 5: If It Keeps Returning

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