Note 4: Waiting Is a Decision

Written By Kami Gray

People often tell themselves they’re not deciding yet. They say they’re waiting, gathering more information, or staying open.

But waiting is not neutral.

Waiting preserves the status quo and carries consequences, whether you acknowledge them or not. Time is still spent. Momentum is still affected. Other options quietly narrow or disappear.

The cost of waiting is rarely obvious upfront. It tends to show up later as lost momentum, fewer viable paths, or increased pressure created by delay.

Because waiting doesn’t feel active, people underestimate its weight. There’s no moment where you say, “I chose this.” There’s no clear action to own.

But you did choose.

Not deciding is still a decision. It just feels safer because it doesn’t require responsibility in the moment.

When people recognize waiting as a choice rather than a pause, decisions tend to move more quickly. Not impulsively. Deliberately.

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Kami Gray

I run a private decision-making practice called The Decision Room. I work with people at the point where thinking, research, and advice have stopped helping. My work isn’t coaching or strategy. It’s discernment…collapsing noise, identifying what actually matters, and making a clear recommendation when the stakes feel real. I’m particularly interested in how AI, information overload, and endless optionality have made decision-making harder, not easier.

https://www.thedecisionroom.co/
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